HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES — Ephesians 5:25-33

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“Women don’t seem to have problems loving. It seems to be a natural thing, but when it comes to guys. It is different. It looks like the area husband has to work on is loving our wives…”
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Ephesians 5:25-33 New King James Version (NKJV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her

First, notice that verse 25-32 is addressed to the husband and not the wife. This means wives this passage is between the husband and God. It is none of your business. You should never quote this passage to your husband. It is not for the wife and you can’t quote this passage to avoid submitting

Second, notice that God instructed the husband to love his wife, not the wife. You see if we guys are honest .. often loving our wives is not a natural thing. Women don’t seem to have problems loving. It seems to be a natural thing, but when it comes to guys. It is different. It looks like the area husband has to work on is loving our wives.

Very quickly once we are married we start focusing on other things and kind of forgetting our wives. Taking them for granted. It is not that we don’t love them. We do love them, but we forget to show them. So that is why this instruction. God is saying guys be sure to remember .. show your love and appreciation to your wife. Every day!

Third, now when you are honest guys and God tells you to love your wife. You are like, but how? What does it mean to love her? Although it is different for every woman generally this is how a woman feels loved.

1. Give her many hugs
2. Give her kisses
3. Make love with her (yippee!)
4. Tell her you love her (every day)
5. Do something special for her now and again .. like bring some flowers, chocolate or take her out for a date. Just you and her… no kids or buddies.
6. Listen to her without trying to fix her problems (she just wants someone to listen to her)

Summary make her feel special.

Fourth, notice that God is telling husbands to love their wife as Christ loved the church. So in other words .. husband has to be willing to give his life for her, that is how much we have to love her. Go all the way out for her.

So what does this mean .. when your wife has her tantrums, moods (period) and anger issues .. this is when you keep loving her. Just accept her as she is and keep loving her. Everyone has their issues and problems … 

This is the time when your wife needs you most. Give her a hug and tell her you love her. Give her a kiss and smile to her. Help her through her struggles by loving her.

You see as you keep loving her, what does the bible say. It will cleanse her and make her without spot and wrinkle. You see the more you love her the more loving she becomes. By loving her you are helping her to become without spot or wrinkle. 

Fifth, so when you love your wife it helps your wife and heals her from past wounds. Beside that you get a more loving wife, the more you love her.

Now just to set the record straight. Loving your wife doesn’t mean you accept everything she says and does. You see you are still the head and responsible for your family. We guys sometimes have a wrong understanding of what it means to love a person. You see when Eve ate the fruit .. sin didn’t enter yet … 

It was when the husband was afraid to stand up to her and say Eve this is wrong. The problem was not what Eve did. The problem was what Adam didn’t do .. he didn’t take responsibility as the head of the household.

If Adam would have stood up and not be a chicken. Afraid to confront Eve. But instead reprimand Eve for what she did, correct her behavior, we would still be living in the garden of Eden. (Gen. 3:6-7) 

So for example when your wife is being verbal (cush all kind of things or put you down) or physically abusive (slaps you or beats you) .. just because you love her doesn’t mean you have to accept that kind of behavior.

You are created in God’s image and nobody has to accept that kind of behavior. The same applies to wives.

If this happens correct your wife’s behavior and tell her you do not tolerate that kind of attitude. If she continues to ignore your corrections and doesn’t accept your leadership and keeps polluting your mind with garbage and not willing to accept your leadership (talking about years) .. get a divorce.

She is not worthy of your love. That marriage is not going to work. If the wife doesn’t accept the leadership of the husband it is not going to work. 

Summary:
1. Addressed to the husband, not the wife
2. Show your wife you love her
3. How to love your wife
4. Love your wife as Christ loves the church
5. Loving your wife doesn’t mean accepting the wrong behavior.

Hope this was helpful.

For comments, questions or suggestions please contact me. Love to hear from you.

God bless!!


To view the notes for this message, please click the link: Husbands, love your wives — Notes in pdf

WIVES, SUBMIT TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS

Based on Ephesians 5:22-24

On this teaching, Coach Arthur Peter will share what the passages in Ephesians 5:22-24 is encouraging about and to whom does it addressed to. Also, we will find out what does it really mean by a submissive wife. Is it for the husbands or is it mainly for the Lord?

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Ephesians 5:22-24 New King James Version (NKJV)

Marriage—Christ and the Church

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

First, this verse is addressed to the wife and not to the husband. Meaning that the husband can skip this part. It is not for the husband. This is between the wife and God. The husband should not use this verse to point to his wife to submit. When a husband does that it already shows a very wrong heart. Verse 25 is for the husband … to love her

Second, notice that the reason the wives submit to their husbands is not because their husbands are perfect or without fault. No, it is done unto the Lord because it is pleasing unto the Lord.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church

Third, you see the reason wives submit to their husbands is because there is a spiritual law. When God created the human being in His image. God created the husband to be the leader, protector, and provider in the household. When wives decide to submit on their own accord it will give them peace, fulfillment, and joy.

So if a wife decides to submit to her husband it is not only pleasing unto God, it also benefits the wife. She will be in the place where she feels most fulfilled.

Fourth, submitting to your husband has nothing to do with not being equal. That is the most stupid reasoning I have ever heard. Each partner has a different role in the family. The husband is the provider and protector. The wife has more the caring, nurturing and supportive role.

Let me explain the function thing .. say you have a president and a janitor of a company.
Now is the president more important than the janitor? No, they are both equal as persons. Both are created in God’s image. However, they both have a different role or function. If the president stops doing his role it messes up the whole company. The same for the janitor.

You see the husband and wife have both a crucial role in the family. Each person has a different role. If they work together there will be harmony, peace, and success. However, if they constantly strife with each other and fight all the time .. no good will come forth of it.

Final point, now let me just address this in case we get some misunderstandings. I totally agree that the husband is the head and the wife needs to submit, however, when the partner is abusive (verbal or physical) get a divorce. Just because you are married doesn’t mean your partner can mistreat you.

The husband and wife are both created in God’s image, so if one of the partners is not treating the other person with respect get a divorce and find a partner that respects you and treats you with love.

Just because you are married doesn’t mean you can mistreat each other. You sometimes get this weird thinking in the church .. you are married and you are not allowed to get a divorce .. it doesn’t matter how your partner is treating you .. that logic is totally against God’s word. That is called religion .. being legalistic.

Both partners are created in God’s image and treating each other as garbage is not very Godly. So get out of the marriage, stop accepting all that garbage and find a partner that is truly Godly. That will treat you with love and respect.

Summary:
1. Addressed to the wife, not husband
2. Submitting is done unto the Lord
3. To feel fulfilled and experience joy & peace
4. Submitting doesn’t mean you are not equal
5. Don’t submit when the husband is abusive, get a divorce instead

Hope this was helpful.

For comments, questions or suggestions please contact me. Love to hear from you.

God bless!!

 

Philippians 1: 3-4 Thanksgiving and Joy

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Philippians 1:3 (NKJV)
3. I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, 4. always in every prayer of mine making request for you all with joy,
5. for your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now. 

Thanksgiving & Joy 

Notice how the apostle Paul starts with thanksgiving .. as Paul gives thanks according to verse 4 he receives joy. You see thankful people or grateful people experience … joy VS complaining and unthankful people will experience …. distress or grieve.

Quote: “Talk about your problems and
you will always have problems to talk about.”
Author Unknown

Quote: “Learn to be grateful and
you will have more each day to be grateful for.”
Author Unknown

Quote: “When I started counting my blessings,
my whole life turned around.”
Willie Nelson

There are loads of Scriptures that talk about thanksgiving and complaining. Just to mention a few:

 

Phil. 2:14 Do all things without complaining and disputing

Eph. 5:20 Giving thanks always for all things to God the Father

 


I don’t have more time to teach on this specific topic, but let me close with this challenge: Start your day with Thanksgiving.

Find at least 10 things you are grateful for AND Go 24 hrs without complaining .. not even once .. and see how your life changes for good. RESULT: Go from grieve or stress to a life full of joy and peace.

 

So simple, but just try it and it will change your life.

Philippians 1:3 (NKJV)
3. I thank my God upon every remembrance of
you,
4. always in every prayer of mine making request
for you all with joy,
5. for your fellowship in the gospel from the first
day until now.


To view the notes of this message, click on the link Philippians 1:3-4 Thanksgiving and Joy in PDF files

PHILIPPIANS 1:1-2 Greetings

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Philippians 1:1-2 (NKJV)

1 Paul and Timothy, bondservants of Jesus Christ, To all the saints in Christ Jesus who are in Philippi, with the bishops and deacons: 2 Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 

Paul and Timothy:
The epistle of Philippians was written by the apostle Paul and most likely Timothy was present to write the letter. 

“bondservants of Jesus Christ”

Notice how the apostle Paul calls himself first of all a servant of Jesus Christ. Not the church. Not humans! Not tradition!

We are here to serve Jesus Christ and not trying to please people. A true follower of Jesus Christ is not trying to please people but rather our focus should always to please God, even if it means people are not happy. (Galatians 1:10)

To all the saints in Christ Jesus

Observe to whom the letter was addressed:

1st – Saints in Christ Jesus
2nd – ministers or church officers

1. To all the saints in Christ who are at Philippi. He mentions the church before the ministers, because the ministers are for the church, for their edification and benefit, not the churches for the ministers, for their dignity, dominion, and wealth.
2. It is directed to the ministers, or church-officers – with the bishops and deacons, the bishops or elders, in the first place, whose office it was to teach and rule, and the deacons, or overseers of the poor, who took care of the outward business of the house of God. 

Notice the apostle Paul calls all the members of the church .. SAINTS

FIRST, we can see the only requirement to be a saint is to accept Jesus as Lord and Saviour. You can only be a saint if you are IN Christ Jesus .. this means you need to have a personal relationship with Jesus

SECOND: All Christians are saints … not just a few chosen ones. Not just a few approved by the pope. NO!! Every person who accepts Jesus as Lord and Saviour become a saint through the blood of Jesus. Not because he is without fault no because of what Jesus did for us on the cross … we are saints through God’s grace.

Bishops: Greek episkopos; Latin, episcopus.

Different terms used for the same office:
BISHOP, ELDER, PASTOR OR PRESBYTER

As early as 50 AD Paul appointed “elders” in every church, with prayer and fasting (Acts 14:23), referring to the Asiatic churches before established. But in writing to the Philippians (Phil 1:1) he speaks of “bishops” and “deacons.”

In the Gentile Christian churches, this title evidently had been adopted; and it is only in the Pastoral Epistles that we find the name “presbyters” applied. The name “presbyter”, “elder,” or “bishop” refers to the same persons. Their office is defined as “ruling” Today we most of the time call them Pastors.

Deacons: The term diakonos

It may be said in general that the terms mean the service of the bondservant (doulos), underling (huperetes) or helper (diakonos).

Probably from diako, to run on errands; an attendant, that is, (generally) a waiter (at a table or in other menial duties); specifically a Christian teacher and pastor (technically a deacon or deaconess): – deacon, minister, servant.

This is the main focus of this message…

1 Paul and Timothy, bondservants of Jesus Christ, To all the saints in Christ Jesus who are in Philippi, with the bishops and deacons:

2 Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. Phil 1-1 All the Saints


To view the notes, please click on the link: Phil 1:1-2 All the Saints in PDF files

INTRODUCTION TO THE BOOK OF PHILIPPIANS

 

TTN MINISTRY - PHILIPPIANS

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Philippians 1:1-2 (NKJV)
1 Paul and Timothy, bondservants of Jesus Christ,
To all the saints in Christ Jesus who are in Philippi, with the [a]bishops and deacons:
2 Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

Background:
Philippi was the first city in which the gospel of Jesus Christ was preached on the continent of Europe. Acts 16 informs us of the vision that Paul had in the night. He saw a man of Macedonia in Europe. Then we read how Paul & Silas went. In Philippi, they
found a group of women who had met together for prayer by the river. This is where Lydia opened her heart and accepted the Lord. It was here where the devil possessed girl followed them and shouted loud. It is where Paul rebuked the evil spirit and the girl was set free. After that Paul & Silas went to prison because of the people who were making money through the demon-possessed girl. While in prison there was an earthquake and the chains of all prisoners were loosed.

It was then that the jailer wanted to kill himself because he thought all prisoners would have escaped. However instead found out that everyone was still there and gave his life to the Lord. This is how the church in Philippi started. It is funny as Paul is writing this letter… again he is a prisoner, however, this time in Rome. Paul was writing this letter in response to a gift that was sent by the church through Epaphroditus.

The theme of the epistle of Philippians is one of JOY — Joy in the Lord. This letter teaches us in a practical way how to have and experience joy. Please remember when Paul was writing this letter he was in a dungeon in Rome … not a very pleasant place to be, however, again and again, we will be instructed how to have joy and experience joy while facing hard times.

As we go through this epistle we will be facing and dealing with the following questions:

What is life? What is death? Meaning of justification by faith, the doctrine of the resurrection, what does it mean to be glorified, the meaning of real prayer. This book is full of central Christian doctrines and yet very practical. Looking forward to exploring it together and learn from it so our lives may be changed and transformed … so we may experience JOY IN THE LORD AT ALL TIMES. 


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